Tick one thing off the list

Finally, something has happened. I'm still stressing over being unable to return the money that was overpaid to my dad's account by his annuity because the checking account is blocked and without knowing the tax ID number that "nefarious" trust/estate guy may or may not know, I can't write a check - the only form of payment they will take. (When I first questioned the trust/estate guy, he told me about all the different termination dates an annuity might have. But months after months after death... into a new year... for a fellow who died approaching 87... just did not jive with me.)

My positive news is that I did claim my share both of my dad's inherited IRAs.

IRAs are cool. They don't go through probate, even though they can't be part of a trust. They seemly get inherited by the listed beneficiaries. (Of course in the case of my mom's IRA, things weren't that simple. I think I've mentioned this at least once before. Dad was her primary beneficiary. He never went through the process of inheriting her IRA so when she died, it was unclaimed and became part of her previously non-existent "estate." She should have died with no assets requiring probate, but this IRA somehow slipped through. My dad kept telling us that we had plenty of time. We're still trying to work that one out.

IRAs are also interesting. Money goes into your IRA (Individual Retirement Account) before you've paid tax on it. And it can sit there and grow and grow. If you want to take out funds prior to being 59 1/2 years old, you pay a penalty - and tax on the money withdrawn. At 59 1/2, you can take out whatever you'd like but that's the time you pay the IRS the taxes on the amount you withdraw. You can take a little, you can take all, you can take nothing. At age 70 1/2, you are forced to start making withdrawals. The IRS uses actuarial numbers to determine the number of years they think you might live... and then they require your withdrawals to equal what they believe the end of your life will be in years. The amount you are required to take out annually is called your Minimum Required Distribution. You can always take your funds more rapidly at this point, but this is the absolute minimum you can take.

Then, when you die, your beneficiary or beneficiaries get your IRA as an inherited IRA. I'm not sure if minors are required to take MRDs but people the ages of my brother and I are forced to take out MRDs... based on our ages... and if taken in these minimally small amounts, the IRA should be expected to give us something (with taxes owed) each year for the rest of our lives. Interesting concept.

My dad had two IRAs. Somehow he missed the taking the distribution on one of the accounts. I know there's a penalty involved - unless we can persuade the IRS to waive it. Seriously, Dad had a lot going on in his life those last few months... but he took it on one of the accounts. One of the investment firms led me to believe that I needed to take out Dad's final MRD as I started up my inherited IRA account. Without any real guidance from anyone but the investment firm, that's what I did. And the check came yesterday. Will I have messed things up? I have no idea. But... going forward, that IRA is clearly now my inherited IRA and going forward, things should be much more straightforward.

Some might view this as a sideways step and not a step forward at all. But with the path the administration of this estate has taken, I'm viewing this as a positive thing.

Grief continues to hit me in waves. After a grief counseling session where I was reassured that what I'm feeling is normal and after a bereavement support group meeting, I know I'm not alone and that my grief has to run its course. Everyone's journey is different. And everyone has a story.